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Youve Got Something in Your Teeth

Sep 13, 2024 · 1:00

Summary

A stranger on the train sparks a debate about friendship etiquette: should you tell someone they've got something in their teeth? The answer is yes, 100%. But how far should you go? Kareem pushes the question further, asking if physical touch is warranted. The rider insists on consent first, calling them "collabs" and suggesting you wouldn't just shove your finger in someone's mouth without warning. Then things get weird. Kareem pretends there's something on the rider's face, and suddenly they're inches apart, sharing what he calls "a vulnerable moment." It's classic subway wisdom turned intimate contact. If you see something, say something, but maybe ask permission before getting handsy.

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So what's your take? You should be obligated to tell somebody they have something in their mouth, in their eyes, in their nose if you're a good friend? 100% agree. If you had something on your face right now, yeah, I'll—would say by the way, you've got to—I call them collabs. Yeah, physical touch is a love language.

No, no. I wouldn't—I wouldn't take it off. Well, I guess you're not a good friend. If I had something in my teeth right now, you would shove your finger in my mouth. If you see something, say something. Do you have to get consent? I think you have to get consent. I'm not putting my finger in your mouth if you don't know it's coming, for you, right? You say it to a stranger. Like if you were sitting on the train and you saw—it's hard to make friendships, like organic friendships in the city, and you're on the train, you see somebody and they're dripping. How would you do it? I'd probably take my nail and I'd go, "Oh, you actually do have something."

No, I don't. You do. And now we're really close. And now we're good friends. That was a vulnerable moment. That was crazy.

That was crazy, right? That was crazy. That's called following your intuition. We're not even friends, but now we're very close. We're very close people.

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