Ghosting is not okay
Summary
Ghosting is not okay, declares a straphanger who's ready to throw down with Alexa Chung's take on the matter. She tells Kareem that anyone comfortable with ghosting is a "ghostaster," though she'll grant one exception: the mutual ghost after a single bad date where both parties vanish simultaneously. Still, disappearing after a date that seemed to go well, complete with a kiss, is just plain rude. The conversation spirals into the impossibility of truly ghosting in the digital age. You can't hide anymore. She once tracked down a guy who tried to ghost her by watching him run the marathon using his bib number. Modern technology has killed the ghost. Even death won't save you now, she argues, since AI can resurrect you for conversation. Her verdict? Dating's tough enough without adding cruelty to the mix.
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So, what's your take? Ghosting is not okay.
100%. Disagree. Yeah, I think you can do it.
No. And I knew you were gonna say that there are situations where you can do it and I want to cover that. And I also want to say that this is a direct rebuttal to Alexa Chung. Ghosting's fine. And I think she's an icon, but I do think if you're okay with ghosting, you are the ghostaster.
Oh, there are some instances where it's okay. The mutual ghost. That's when you both go we disof.
You both go vanish mode. Yes. You vanish on each other. No one communicates. It's just done. And I think it only is acceptable after one date that was not like going well. But if someone disappears on the other person when the date presumably went well, the vibe seemed okay and you kissed, and then one person just never texts again, doesn't respond when you text, I think that's rude.
It is rude. But I'm also like, Dating's tough, man. Let it let it be tough. It's it sucks. Dating is tough, but let's just make dating a little bit easier by being kind and generous to each other and communicative.
So then what are you doing? I'm the person who's on the date who's kind of like, I can only do one drink. It was so nice to meet you, and then you can't even ghost me because we both know that I'm not interested. IRL, I will. I'm brutal.
Maybe ghosting could work before the internet. Like, okay, the telegram never got sent. The carrier pigeon was murdered like in the air. Um, maybe it got lost in the mail for real. You died.
You died. You could have actually died now. He's a real ghost. He's a real just die.
But if you died now, I could still find you. It would be on your Instagram. It would be on your Facebook memorial page. And you can't even ghost me from the beyond now because we can talk to AI as you and then you could still communicate with me. I went on two dates with a guy and I had with him uh both dates and another hot take. I think it's okay to have sex on the first date. But I didn't hear from him for a week. He was attempting to ghost me. I knew he was going to run the marathon. You cannot ghost me if I know your marathon number. I know exactly where you're running that. But then I mostly was watching to be like, he did it. Congrats.
Thank you so much. Do we get it? Am I going to look crazy?
Yeah.