Gay people make better parents than straight people
Summary
A subway rider with three lesbian moms and two gay dads delivers a provocative take: gay people make better parents than straight people. Her reasoning? "Gay people never have kids by accident." The conversation gets personal fast as she explains her unconventional family structure, raised by six parents total after her two moms broke up and found new partners. She even calls herself "the black sheep" for being bi instead of fully gay. Kareem's fascinated by the family dynamics and wants to know how he can parent like a lesbian mom. The answer involves getting upset about legumes, mastering passive aggression, and having strong opinions about men. Style-wise, he's already there. The rider, who works with kids professionally, insists children raised by gay parents are "swaggy as hell" and credits queer families for building entire communities around child-rearing, free from rigid gender norms.
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So, what's your take? Gay people make better parents than straight people. Wow. Yeah. And be careful about the 100% disagree. Only because straight parents I know you have to. I love my parents. First of all, gay people never have kids by accident. They do that on purpose.
True.
Can't be having babies willy-nilly. Like there's a process, you think about it, you do it. Also, I'm a little bit biased. I have three lesbian moms, two gay dads. So, I come from a very big gay family.
Wait, wait. Three lesbian moms? Two gay dads. Should I break it down?
Yes, please. I had two moms, they wanted to have a baby, they asked their best friend, my dad, who has a husband, to be the sperm donors. My moms broke up, met other women. I was raised by six, now there's only five. I also have gay brothers and sisters, gay aunts. I'm bi, so I'm the black sheep of the family.
Because you're bi? Yeah.
Why didn't you go full gay? Live a lie. You don't live a— Don't live a lie, but also, like queer families have an entire queer community around them. So, when they're raising a baby, it is a village.
Oh, yes.
Like I grew up with so many amazing people and role models, not just my parents raising me. Also, you're raised without like all these gendered norms on you. Like my mom, very masculine woman.
Does she have a Subaru? Yeah, too.
Does she wear Patagonia? Yeah, they're classic lesbians. That's awesome. I like that a lot.
Yeah, I think having a gay mom is the best thing you can do for a child. I'm going to get a gay mom.
Also, like I work with kids. Like that's my whole life. And the kids with gay parents are kind of dope as hell.
They're swaggy. They are swaggy as hell. Yeah. And Cream, you could raise your child like a lesbian mom.
What do I have to do?
I feel like you have to like get upset about legumes. Like beans? Beans.
You have to be more passive-aggressive.
About beans? About beans. And you have to have really strong opinions about men. How do I become the masculine lesbian mother?
I think you're like basically there style-wise. So, I look like Ellen?
No, no. Ellen's gone. Ellen's gone. You're like a Renée Rapp.
I'll take it. I don't know who that is, but I like it. I like it. Hi moms. Hi moms. Hi moms and dads. Shout out Nicole, Sophia, Lauren, Michael. Nicole, Sophia, Lauren, Michael. Who am I forgetting? Nicole, Sophia, Lauren, Michael. Lauren. Two parents named Lauren. That's so sick.