The sexiest thing somebody can do is say “I’m sorry, I was wrong.” Feat Aymann Ismail
Summary
Aymann Ismail claims the sexiest thing someone can do is say "I'm sorry, I was wrong." Kareem pushes back. What about being naked in bed? The two debate whether admitting fault is truly attractive or just necessary, with Ismail revealing he only started apologizing two years ago when he became a dad. The turning point came on day one of fatherhood when he tried to mansplain feeding to his wife, made her cry, and had to learn humility fast. They agree that saying sorry makes families happier and marriages stronger, though they spar over whether it's harder for men or women to own up to mistakes. It's vulnerable. It works.
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So, what's your take? I think the sexiest thing somebody could do is say, "I'm sorry. I was wrong." 100% disagree. I don't think it's the sexiest.
Tell me more. The sexiest thing you can do is be naked in my bed. Yeah, but isn't in a way saying, "Hey, you know what? I'm being vulnerable. I'm going to be honest. I wasn't in the right when I said that thing." That's kind of like being naked. It is very sexy. You're burying yourself. I think more men and women should admit when they're wrong.
Okay. So, I'm going to disagree with you here because I think there's a certain thing that happens to men when they grow up where they're told, you know what, saying sorry is a little bit vulnerable. You're admitting fault. You're admitting fault and you're not showing that you're the best or the most out in the room. Never surrender, which is total less confident, more conscience. Many a man have been lost because they haven't asked for directions. That's why they end up in the wrong part of town.
When did you start saying sorry? Two years ago.
That's it? Yeah. Fresh. When I became a dad, I made my wife cry the very first day that we brought the baby home. I was like, "Baby's not eating. Baby's crying cuz he's hungry. We need to give the baby formula." And my wife was like, "No, no, no. I need to make this bond. The the milk needs to come and this is part of the process." And I, as the man felt like I needed to be in charge and needed to know what was the right thing to do in the moment.
Oh, you mansplained it to her. I was trying to mansplain to her feeding her baby. And she cried. And she cried cuz she was like, "How the hell am I going to raise a baby with this guy telling me what to do?" and I felt embarrassed and humiliated and so I went for a short little walk, came back and I said, "Oh, sorry."
And she accepted your apology. We're not divorced. So, I think I think it works.
I'm going to advocate for men here and say women need to say they're sorry, too. Everybody needs to say they're sorry. I think the world would be harder for men to say that they're sorry.
I don't know about that one. I mean, I feel like you get it. You're like the man of the house, really young. No, no, I do get it. People have told me I do admit when I'm wrong, and it's sexy. It's a very nice trait and I definitely think it can help make a family happier and a marriage better. I think we can agree on that.
I think we agree on that. What's for dinner? Uh, I don't know. My wife didn't make it yet.